Boost Your Ego With Ego Strengthening Exercises

What is ego? Do you really have control over your ego? How do you strengthen your ego? Wait! What is ego strength? These are the questions perplexing the minds of a lot of us. And figuring out how they apply to our own lives.

What is ego? Do you really have control over your ego? How do you strengthen your ego? Wait! What is ego strength? These are the questions perplexing the minds of a lot of us. And figuring out how they apply to our own lives.

First, let’s dispel the horrific myths of “ego”. Many fail to move past the typical “Oh my, look at the ego on that one!” type of thinking. Having an ego is much like having breath. It’s impossible to be without an ego. Yes, the Greek origin of the word ego means “I”.

But it’s not a bad thing and shouldn’t immediately be assigned a negative connotation. It’s about you and your reality. More importantly, it’s how you deal with your reality.

The Highs and Lows of Ego

Everyone has an ego. Development of the ego starts immediately after birth and continues to develop throughout life. So yes, it’s possible to mold egoistic characteristics by mere experiences. Think of the ego as the middle of a teeter totter. The balancer.

Your ego is the sense of balance; it balances desires with reality. It is the moral compass; the set of rules we live by which we have developed over the years, starting with how we were raised and enhanced by societal standards. Which is your ego-strength? High or low?

High Ego-Strength

” High emotional intelligence
” Solution-oriented
” Confident
” Good coping skills
” Resilient
” Unafraid to try new things
” Builds character and learns from failures

Low Ego-Strength

” Avoids challenges
” Reality is overwhelming and undesired
” Confuses reality with wishful thinking
” Unrealistic expectations of self and others
” Easily gives up or breaks down
” Sticks to their “comfort zone”
” Inadequate coping skills
” Feels unresourceful or incapable of handling unfamiliar tasks

If you can identify with more of the low ego-strength characteristics than high, you would definitely benefit from some ego strengthening exercises. Let’s look at how to do just that!

Ego Strengthening Exercises

To strengthen your ego, you must first look at the characteristics of a strong ego. You’ll then use that as a foundation and build upon those particular characteristics which you feel you may be lacking. The following list denotes high ego-strength traits and how to use them to strengthen your own ego.

Courage – Face your fears. Easier said than done, right? Start with the small ones. You’ll gain confidence as you succeed and feel more comfortable tackling the bigger ones in time.

If you fail, don’t beat yourself up about it. Build on the experience and use that to your advantage. Brainstorm for a different approach or mode of conquering your fears. Just don’t give up; giving up means your fear won the battle.

Vulnerability – Practice being honest with yourself and others. Sometimes it’s hard to put ourselves out there, but there’s an incredible development of strength when we do just that.

You’ll feel better about yourself for being genuine and you might even give others the strength to do the same. Everybody is different, and people are far less critical of you than they are of themselves. Give it a try!

Discipline – Good habits are a great day to develop a stronger ego. Incorporate a healthy eating plan or routine exercise regimen into your life. If that’s already in place, try some self-care techniques for personal enrichment. Discipline doesn’t allow for excuses, so whatever you decide, make sure to follow through with it.

Give Back – There’s no better way to build confidence than through service. Serving others provides the feelings of being needed, relevant and necessary. When we are missing these emotions in our personal and professional lives, we can look to service to fulfill the need. Give without the expectation of receiving a reward or repayment.

Feed Your Mind – Have you ever been part of a conversation but feel you aren’t educated enough to add valuable input? Give your brain the gift of learning. Research new subjects or brush up on subjects you know well. There are countless free resources available on just about any subject.

From newspapers to video tutorials, you’re sure to find something you didn’t already know. Feeling smarter strengthens your ego, especially when you can hold your own in an intellectual conversation!

Try New Things – And finally, get out there and try new things. The only way to truly learn who you are and what you like/dislike is by trial and error. Ever tried speed-dating? Probably not, but you almost certainly have an opinion about it.

Don’t limit yourself to ideals of your social circle. Branch out and discover new things. Enrich your ego by exploring the unknown, unafraid and with zeal!

The amazing thing about your ego is that it’s built upon characteristics you already have. Nobody can take these characteristics away from you. They will always be a part of you. It’s up to you to develop them and use them to strengthen your ego.

Nobody else can do it for you. If you are pursuing the best version of you, try some, or even all, of these ego-strengthening exercises. You won’t be disappointed!

How To Build Social Confidence

Building social confidence is a process, but it’s possible and probably easier than you think!

If you’ve ever been in the presence of someone truly confident, it’s almost as if self-assurance is oozing from their pores and they remain unshaken no matter the circumstances.

Apprehension and intimidation don’t seem to even register on the socially confident person’s radar. They just are. And others flock around them in awe of their calm, cool and collected composure while at the center of attention.

And those who lack social confidence are typically standing back, away from the crowd, afraid they won’t fit in or be accepted should they attempt to be part of the “cool kids crowd”. It can be terrifying to a shy individual even contemplating interaction with those exuding social confidence with such ease.

There are so many hypothetical “what if’s” coupled with self-deprecating internal dialogue, it turns into just as much of a physical challenge as it is mental. It doesn’t have to be that way! Building social confidence is a process, but it’s possible and probably easier than you think!

Take a look at the following 5 steps to build social confidence.

Be a Better Version of You

This is what it’s all about; living the best possible life. If you are dissatisfied with something in your life, take action. Don’t just sit there and do nothing. In accepting the way things are, things you know you can change, you are basically telling yourself you aren’t worth putting in the effort to change and be better. And you are worth it!

Stop Comparing

Knock off the incessant comparisons to others. There will always be someone you feel is better than you in one way or another. Mary might have a wardrobe to die for, and Steve might be the most handsome person you’ve ever met.
So what! When you hold yourself to the standards of others’, you will never be truly happy in your own skin. You have to love you before anyone else will. That’s a huge factor in social confidence.

In fact, the performance or outer appearance of others shouldn’t even be used as a gauge. Keep striving to reach your goals until you are satisfied with the results. If you want a better wardrobe, work on it.

And don’t use money, or the lack thereof, as an excuse. There are entirely too many resources available now to purchase high-end items without breaking the bank.

Speaking of Excuses…

Excuses are shackles with which we bound ourselves. Excuses are unrealized fears. Think about something you’ve recently made an excuse not to do, buy or even make a goal.
For instance, if there’s a pair of shoes you’d love to have but made the excuse not to buy as the budget doesn’t allow it – did you shut the idea down immediately and “restrict” yourself from the shoes? You will never have the shoes because you didn’t even give it another thought.

Here’s the deal: If you really want something, you’ll make a way to make it happen. Find what’s going to make you happy from the inside out and do it. Don’t make excuses and set up limitations on your happiness. Happy people are confident people!

Ditch the Filters

We filter our photos, conversations, actions… basically everything. Pull back on the filtering a little bit and take a chance on being vulnerable. Let someone know what you are truly thinking or how you are really feeling.

Don’t turn the selfie you just took into a grayscale enhancement because you’re afraid the world will see a wrinkle or the bags under your eyes.
Let people see the real you, underneath all the filters. The person they want to get to know and spend time with. The socially confident person is vulnerable. It sounds insanely opposite, but it’s the truth.

They are confident enough to know that they aren’t everyone’s type, and everyone isn’t going to instantly befriend them. They are strong enough to shine through the chaos and negativity and surround themselves with the true gems they did find that like them for who they are, blemishes and all.

Exposure is Therapy

A common practice for therapists treating people with phobias is called exposure therapy. They are urged to take baby steps and go a little further each time with their phobias until it feels okay. Until it feels safe.

Exposure is extremely hard for some of us because we waste too much time being concerned with what other’s think of us. The more you test the waters, the easier it gets, thus the more confident you become.

See! Those steps aren’t that hard, right? It takes some effort, follow through and determination, but mostly it requires you being confident in yourself, not in what you think is the perception of others. Building social confidence starts on the inside and works its way out.