Advantages And Disadvantages Of Being An Introvert

We live in a dog-eat-dog world and everybody gets labeled, whether they like it or not. In the past, introverts got a bad rap when compared to their extroverted counterpart. The introvert was often overlooked and undervalued next to the outgoing, fun-loving extrovert.

We live in a dog-eat-dog world and everybody gets labeled, whether they like it or not. In the past, introverts got a bad rap when compared to their extroverted counterpart. The introvert was often overlooked and undervalued next to the outgoing, fun-loving extrovert.

However, both personalities have their own set of advantages and disadvantages, and being an introvert has many good points!

Advantages of Being an Introvert

  1. Ability to focus.

These folks are typically able to hyper-focus on a particular subject or item for longer periods than would be deemed natural or even possible for an extravert. Research is a piece of cake for the introvert.

2. Independent.

The introvert needs very little supervision and works best independently.

3. Great organizers.

The introvert gives great attention to detail and leaves no stone unturned. They are great with organization and planning.

4. Cultivate more meaningful relationships.

For the introvert, it takes a while to open up. They take time to build relationships and really dig in deep. The amount of relationships isn’t important for them; it’s the depth and quality.

Quality over quantity is very much the standard for an introvert.

5. Quiet.

Obviously the introvert is quiet and deliberate with their actions. This trait also makes them great listeners and they are careful with their words, choosing carefully as to not offend or rock the boat.

Disadvantages of Being an Introvert

  1. Bad first impression.

Because they use fewer words and sometimes are socially awkward, their first impressions aren’t usually the best. They might come off socially inept or lacking in essential verbal skills. It’s not that their vocabulary is underdeveloped, because they are likely well-read; it’s more due to their lack of social encounters and inexperience with actual social cues.

2. Labeled as weird or awkward.

Speaking of being socially awkward, they get a reputation for being the weirdos of the group. Maybe they are a little different, but that’s hardly “weird”.

3. No Regard for Social Customs.

Because they don’t get out often and avoid crowds, people, an all things social, the customs of those well-acquainted with a social life are not only unknown, but unimportant to the introvert. Why bother with the crowd and their rituals if you’re never really in the crowd?

4. Often left out or overlooked.

In a social setting, the introvert frequently gets overlooked and forgotten when invitations go out. In a professional setting, their work is often overlooked because they aren’t the center of attention and usually hiding in a corner somewhere diligently working when others are running amok gloating about their latest discoveries and successes to the powers that be.

Regardless of whether you are an introvert or an extrovert, both have good qualities that can be built on and grown. This is where if you build your strengths and work on your weaknesses, you can build a better you!

You don’t have to become loud and ‘out there’ if you don’t want to. So if it makes you happier, be quiet and be proudly you!

Advantages And Disadvantages Of Being An Extrovert

Are you an extrovert or an introvert? Both have their own set of advantages and disadvantages. The truth of the matter is, today it’s best to be a well-balanced combination of both, introverted and extroverted, for the greatest chances of a successful and fulfilling life.

Are you an extrovert or an introvert? Both have their own set of advantages and disadvantages. The truth of the matter is, today it’s best to be a well-balanced combination of both, introverted and extroverted, for the greatest chances of a successful and fulfilling life.

Let’s take a look at the pros and cons of the extrovert.

Advantages of Being An Extrovert

  1. Quicker to advance.

In both the professional and personal realms, the extrovert seems to make quicker advancements. They get noticed at work and move up the ladder with ease. In relationships, they actively seek a partner and stand out in a crowd, making them easy to find and pursue.

2. Socially active.

The extrovert usually has a pretty active social life and stays busy. Idle time gives way to boredom, which is something the extrovert detests. Keeping up with the latest trends, the influential people, etc., seems to be easy as pie.

3. Easily handles crowds.

Because they are so good with people, crowds are a natural home for them. They move fluidly through the sea of people, learning everything they can, engaging with everyone they see.

4. Great at networking.

It should be easy to understand, given their love of people and social interaction, how well the extrovert does with networking. Because they’ve got quite the repertoire of people in their database, they always know someone who does just the thing they need at the time.

Need an attorney? The extrovert probably knows several. Need a good referral for a pediatrician? Again, they’ve got just what the doctor ordered. And if they don’t personally know them, they know someone who does know them.

Disadvantages of Being an Extrovert

  1. Needs positive reinforcement.

People feed them. More so, they feed off people. If they are getting positive reinforcement, they are happy to be the life of the party. If not, they feel they have fallen short somehow often getting depressed and overly critical of self.

2. Pressure to always perform.

The extrovert feels a certain amount of responsibility to perform to higher expectations, especially in social situations. On one hand the pressure feeds their own desires, but if they don’t meet their goals, it’s simply devastating.

3. Highly competitive.

With regard to being in the presence of other extroverts, they are always fighting to be the biggest and best, the most notable and noticed.

4. They act before they think.

It’s common with an extrovert to act on instinct instead of processing potential outcomes and weighing options. Consequences are the least of their concerns in the heat of the moment. This doesn’t always work out in their favor.

5. Come off as annoying.

Quite often, encountering a true extrovert isn’t always pleasant. They tend to come off as annoying, attention-seeking and as if they lack self-awareness. It doesn’t bode well for future meetings as the first impression is already set.

A balanced combination of both personality types (being a mixture of an introvert and an extrovert) would make for the perfect, unstoppable person in both a personal and professional atmosphere.

The ability to work well independently and woo the corporate crowd without the incessant need for positive reinforcement and still have great networking skills is an incredible recipe for total domination on all fields!

Stop Seeking Approval From Other People

Trust in yourself

If you could wave a magic wand and make it disappear, this incessant need to seek out approval from other people, you probably would. If we could just find it in ourselves to trust our own gut and be comfortable within our own skin, wouldn’t that be a prime example of living the best life possible?

The need for validation is something we are all guilty of doing, and sometimes without even realizing it. The pattern started long before you could even walk or talk. Parents teach their babies to mimic them and seek their approval by providing positive feedback for a job well done.

They used clapping, kisses and hugs, smiles and laughs; everything a small brain needs to form an attachment to approval-seeking behavior. Was it wrong? Of course not! But it certainly doesn’t have to control thought-processes as an adult.

Even long into the school years a child is rewarded for good behaviors and achievements. This type of structure laid the groundwork for the desire to fit in, to be part of something bigger than ourselves and to reach for reassurance that we were on the right track.

The downside is the incapability to trust our own judgment without reinforcement. It’s easier said than done, but with some self-awareness and behavior modifications, it’s very possible to break the cycle and learn to stop seeking the approval of others.

Your Life, Your Choices, Your Consequences

If you struggle with seeking the opinion of others before making decisions in your life, you could be headed down a long road of insecurities and failed relationships. These other people aren’t in your shoes.

They aren’t really living your life or dealing with the consequences of your decisions. So really, they are putting their own spin and personal preferences on the advice rendered.
If I were you” type of advice is often times flat out wrong, and sometimes can even be dangerous. You are the only one who can evaluate your situation from all sides and effectively weigh the options.

The problem in cases like this is that we don’t trust our gut enough to stand firm on a decision. It’s also likely we know what we should do, but don’t really want to do it because it’s hard, we are scared or will be faced with a painful aftermath.

Believe in Your Opinion

You didn’t get this far in life without an opinion and the capability to make decisions. So, don’t believe the hype that your opinion isn’t worth anything or not worthy of self-validation.

If your first inclination seems a bit off the beaten path, go for it. No harm, no foul. Don’t short-change yourself by believing you have to be part of a flock to be worthy. You are more than capable of dancing to the beat of your own drum if that’s the direction you choose.

If you find yourself hush-mouthed in meetings at work because you are afraid others will think your idea is stupid, you’re going to love this. First, upper management thrives and builds on new ideas. And creative thinking starts with a single idea that gets shifted, molded and formed into a great idea with teamwork.

And second, you aren’t the top priority of your coworkers. You might think all eyes are on you, ready to pounce at the first sign of vulnerability. The opposite is probably true and you’re giving them the courage to chime in with their own input.

Unrealized Fear is Counter-Productive

If your approval-seeking needs are based out of fear, you’ve already made up your mind. You are telling yourself a future that you simply don’t have the power or fortitude to predict, and it’s usually because you’re afraid of what might happen without relation to the likelihood of it happening.
It’s during these times that you need to ask yourself what you are really afraid of and are you automatically jumping to the worst-case scenario. Because 9 times out of ten, the results are never as bad as we allowed ourselves to imagine.

A healthy dose of fear should be a contributor in the decision-making process, but it shouldn’t have the authority to dictate an outcome. We tend to seek approval from others in just about every area of our lives. It’s entirely too easy to fall down the rabbit hole of self-doubt and feared consequences.

Start with little steps and work your way up to the big stuff. Gain a little bit of confidence in your ability to make good, sound decisions for your own life and then keep going. Like with anything else worth your time, it takes a bit of practice.

But it does get easier. You’ll become stronger emotionally and mentally and in the long-run you’ll thank yourself for taking the initiative to trust yourself.