Advantages And Disadvantages Of Being An Extrovert

Are you an extrovert or an introvert? Both have their own set of advantages and disadvantages. The truth of the matter is, today it’s best to be a well-balanced combination of both, introverted and extroverted, for the greatest chances of a successful and fulfilling life.

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Are you an extrovert or an introvert? Both have their own set of advantages and disadvantages. The truth of the matter is, today it’s best to be a well-balanced combination of both, introverted and extroverted, for the greatest chances of a successful and fulfilling life.

Let’s take a look at the pros and cons of the extrovert.

Advantages of Being An Extrovert

  1. Quicker to advance.

In both the professional and personal realms, the extrovert seems to make quicker advancements. They get noticed at work and move up the ladder with ease. In relationships, they actively seek a partner and stand out in a crowd, making them easy to find and pursue.

2. Socially active.

The extrovert usually has a pretty active social life and stays busy. Idle time gives way to boredom, which is something the extrovert detests. Keeping up with the latest trends, the influential people, etc., seems to be easy as pie.

3. Easily handles crowds.

Because they are so good with people, crowds are a natural home for them. They move fluidly through the sea of people, learning everything they can, engaging with everyone they see.

4. Great at networking.

It should be easy to understand, given their love of people and social interaction, how well the extrovert does with networking. Because they’ve got quite the repertoire of people in their database, they always know someone who does just the thing they need at the time.

Need an attorney? The extrovert probably knows several. Need a good referral for a pediatrician? Again, they’ve got just what the doctor ordered. And if they don’t personally know them, they know someone who does know them.

Disadvantages of Being an Extrovert

  1. Needs positive reinforcement.

People feed them. More so, they feed off people. If they are getting positive reinforcement, they are happy to be the life of the party. If not, they feel they have fallen short somehow often getting depressed and overly critical of self.

2. Pressure to always perform.

The extrovert feels a certain amount of responsibility to perform to higher expectations, especially in social situations. On one hand the pressure feeds their own desires, but if they don’t meet their goals, it’s simply devastating.

3. Highly competitive.

With regard to being in the presence of other extroverts, they are always fighting to be the biggest and best, the most notable and noticed.

4. They act before they think.

It’s common with an extrovert to act on instinct instead of processing potential outcomes and weighing options. Consequences are the least of their concerns in the heat of the moment. This doesn’t always work out in their favor.

5. Come off as annoying.

Quite often, encountering a true extrovert isn’t always pleasant. They tend to come off as annoying, attention-seeking and as if they lack self-awareness. It doesn’t bode well for future meetings as the first impression is already set.

A balanced combination of both personality types (being a mixture of an introvert and an extrovert) would make for the perfect, unstoppable person in both a personal and professional atmosphere.

The ability to work well independently and woo the corporate crowd without the incessant need for positive reinforcement and still have great networking skills is an incredible recipe for total domination on all fields!

Boost Your Ego With Ego Strengthening Exercises

What is ego? Do you really have control over your ego? How do you strengthen your ego? Wait! What is ego strength? These are the questions perplexing the minds of a lot of us. And figuring out how they apply to our own lives.

What is ego? Do you really have control over your ego? How do you strengthen your ego? Wait! What is ego strength? These are the questions perplexing the minds of a lot of us. And figuring out how they apply to our own lives.

First, let’s dispel the horrific myths of “ego”. Many fail to move past the typical “Oh my, look at the ego on that one!” type of thinking. Having an ego is much like having breath. It’s impossible to be without an ego. Yes, the Greek origin of the word ego means “I”.

But it’s not a bad thing and shouldn’t immediately be assigned a negative connotation. It’s about you and your reality. More importantly, it’s how you deal with your reality.

The Highs and Lows of Ego

Everyone has an ego. Development of the ego starts immediately after birth and continues to develop throughout life. So yes, it’s possible to mold egoistic characteristics by mere experiences. Think of the ego as the middle of a teeter totter. The balancer.

Your ego is the sense of balance; it balances desires with reality. It is the moral compass; the set of rules we live by which we have developed over the years, starting with how we were raised and enhanced by societal standards. Which is your ego-strength? High or low?

High Ego-Strength

” High emotional intelligence
” Solution-oriented
” Confident
” Good coping skills
” Resilient
” Unafraid to try new things
” Builds character and learns from failures

Low Ego-Strength

” Avoids challenges
” Reality is overwhelming and undesired
” Confuses reality with wishful thinking
” Unrealistic expectations of self and others
” Easily gives up or breaks down
” Sticks to their “comfort zone”
” Inadequate coping skills
” Feels unresourceful or incapable of handling unfamiliar tasks

If you can identify with more of the low ego-strength characteristics than high, you would definitely benefit from some ego strengthening exercises. Let’s look at how to do just that!

Ego Strengthening Exercises

To strengthen your ego, you must first look at the characteristics of a strong ego. You’ll then use that as a foundation and build upon those particular characteristics which you feel you may be lacking. The following list denotes high ego-strength traits and how to use them to strengthen your own ego.

Courage – Face your fears. Easier said than done, right? Start with the small ones. You’ll gain confidence as you succeed and feel more comfortable tackling the bigger ones in time.

If you fail, don’t beat yourself up about it. Build on the experience and use that to your advantage. Brainstorm for a different approach or mode of conquering your fears. Just don’t give up; giving up means your fear won the battle.

Vulnerability – Practice being honest with yourself and others. Sometimes it’s hard to put ourselves out there, but there’s an incredible development of strength when we do just that.

You’ll feel better about yourself for being genuine and you might even give others the strength to do the same. Everybody is different, and people are far less critical of you than they are of themselves. Give it a try!

Discipline – Good habits are a great day to develop a stronger ego. Incorporate a healthy eating plan or routine exercise regimen into your life. If that’s already in place, try some self-care techniques for personal enrichment. Discipline doesn’t allow for excuses, so whatever you decide, make sure to follow through with it.

Give Back – There’s no better way to build confidence than through service. Serving others provides the feelings of being needed, relevant and necessary. When we are missing these emotions in our personal and professional lives, we can look to service to fulfill the need. Give without the expectation of receiving a reward or repayment.

Feed Your Mind – Have you ever been part of a conversation but feel you aren’t educated enough to add valuable input? Give your brain the gift of learning. Research new subjects or brush up on subjects you know well. There are countless free resources available on just about any subject.

From newspapers to video tutorials, you’re sure to find something you didn’t already know. Feeling smarter strengthens your ego, especially when you can hold your own in an intellectual conversation!

Try New Things – And finally, get out there and try new things. The only way to truly learn who you are and what you like/dislike is by trial and error. Ever tried speed-dating? Probably not, but you almost certainly have an opinion about it.

Don’t limit yourself to ideals of your social circle. Branch out and discover new things. Enrich your ego by exploring the unknown, unafraid and with zeal!

The amazing thing about your ego is that it’s built upon characteristics you already have. Nobody can take these characteristics away from you. They will always be a part of you. It’s up to you to develop them and use them to strengthen your ego.

Nobody else can do it for you. If you are pursuing the best version of you, try some, or even all, of these ego-strengthening exercises. You won’t be disappointed!

Stop Negative Self-Talk And Use Positive Affirmations

Have you ever wanted to just shut that inner voice up for good? The one that beats you up and tells you horrible lies… about yourself? Everyone has an inner voice, but sometimes that nasty voice gets the best of us and creates a breeding ground for negative self-talk and destructive behaviors.

Have you ever wanted to just shut that inner voice up for good? The one that beats you up and tells you horrible lies… about yourself? Everyone has an inner voice, but sometimes that nasty voice gets the best of us and creates a breeding ground for negative self-talk and destructive behaviors.

Negative self-talk isn’t all bad. Sometimes we need the “voice of reason” to reel us back in when we might be on the verge of making a bad decision. For instance, if you’re about to attempt something that compromises the safety of yourself or others, you might need that inner critic to jump up and remind you the risk outweighs the reward.

On the other hand, negative self-talk oftentimes comes in the form of inaudible dialogue with yourself that makes you question even the smallest decisions, things you know you are quite capable of handling. It brings on self-doubt, crushes confidence and pretty much paralyzes the ability to make positive changes.

Using positive affirmations is the best defense against negative self-talk. And yes, while some people find it useful to place sticky notes with encouraging phrases and quotes all over the house and workspace, that doesn’t work for all of us.

Even though the notes are carefully posted in places we are sure to see them, they eventually get ignored because we don’t even believe them in the first place.
Thankfully there are strategies that actually work to stop the negative self-talk and replace it with positive affirmations!

You don’t have to “convince” yourself or repeat some mantra to get the job done. It takes a little critical thinking, but you can absolutely retrain your brain with a more objective game plan.

Here’s how to get started:

What’s Your Trigger?

You have to identify the times your inner negative dialogue begins. It might be when you are facing new challenges at work or getting ready for a blind date. Before you can stop it, you have to know when it starts.

Allow for a Gray Area

Not everything is black and white. Don’t limit yourself to thinking things are either good or bad, wonderful or horrible, beautiful or ugly. There is a middle ground, a place where there is neutrality and calmness.

Think of the last decision you made: Did the result come out exactly perfect or absolutely awful? There’s probably a grey area in there and you haven’t given it a second thought. If the results weren’t positive, they must be negative, right?

Wrong! It doesn’t have to be one or the other. Identify the grey area and it takes some of the stress out of the decision.

Worst-Case Scenario

When we talk negatively to ourselves, we are basically talking ourselves out of whatever we have planned, or want to plan. During times like this we need to go ahead and play out the worst possible scenario in our heads. The worst-case scenario rarely happens but ask yourself how you will handle the situation anyway.

Reframe & Replace

The easiest way to break a bad habit is to replace it with something good. For instance, a smoker might replace cigarettes with suckers. Now that you know your trigger, have realized there is a grey area, worked through the worst-case scenario, it’s time to reframe and replace.

Replace the negative thought with something positive: “I’ll never be good enough” could be reframed by using something you are good at as a focal point for a positive affirmation like, “I’m a very good listener” or “I’m pretty good at organizing things.”

Using Positive Affirmations

Positive affirmations don’t have to be limited to quotes thoughtfully posted all over your home, as stated above. There are lots of ways to work in positive affirmations without lifting a finger.

You just have to train your mind to identify where to apply them. When you get more comfortable noticing the triggers to negative self-talk, arming yourself with positive affirmations becomes second nature.

Here are a few easy ways to incorporate using positive affirmations:

¢ Embrace your flaws and imperfections – everybody has them!
¢ Face your fears – take baby steps and conquer fears that hold you back!
¢ Meditation – being mindful and intention in thought is incredibly powerful!
¢ Do what makes you happy – if you’re happy doing it, you’re probably good at it! Use this as fuel!
¢ Be good to you – take time for self-care! It’s hard to be negative when you feel good inside and out!
¢ Be grateful – negative self-talk doesn’t have a place in a grateful mind.
¢ Surround yourself with positivity – positive people attract other positive people!

Negative self-talk can affect so many areas of life, from personal to professional, nothing is exempt. When we retrain our brains to choose positivity over the negative thought patterns, we create a more healthy and happy life.

The best part about stopping negative self-talk and using positive affirmations is that the power is in our own hands. After all, we are the only ones in control of our own thoughts!