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How To Build Social Confidence

Building social confidence is a process, but it’s possible and probably easier than you think!

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If you’ve ever been in the presence of someone truly confident, it’s almost as if self-assurance is oozing from their pores and they remain unshaken no matter the circumstances.

Apprehension and intimidation don’t seem to even register on the socially confident person’s radar. They just are. And others flock around them in awe of their calm, cool and collected composure while at the center of attention.

And those who lack social confidence are typically standing back, away from the crowd, afraid they won’t fit in or be accepted should they attempt to be part of the “cool kids crowd”. It can be terrifying to a shy individual even contemplating interaction with those exuding social confidence with such ease.

There are so many hypothetical “what if’s” coupled with self-deprecating internal dialogue, it turns into just as much of a physical challenge as it is mental. It doesn’t have to be that way! Building social confidence is a process, but it’s possible and probably easier than you think!

Take a look at the following 5 steps to build social confidence.

Be a Better Version of You

This is what it’s all about; living the best possible life. If you are dissatisfied with something in your life, take action. Don’t just sit there and do nothing. In accepting the way things are, things you know you can change, you are basically telling yourself you aren’t worth putting in the effort to change and be better. And you are worth it!

Stop Comparing

Knock off the incessant comparisons to others. There will always be someone you feel is better than you in one way or another. Mary might have a wardrobe to die for, and Steve might be the most handsome person you’ve ever met.
So what! When you hold yourself to the standards of others’, you will never be truly happy in your own skin. You have to love you before anyone else will. That’s a huge factor in social confidence.

In fact, the performance or outer appearance of others shouldn’t even be used as a gauge. Keep striving to reach your goals until you are satisfied with the results. If you want a better wardrobe, work on it.

And don’t use money, or the lack thereof, as an excuse. There are entirely too many resources available now to purchase high-end items without breaking the bank.

Speaking of Excuses…

Excuses are shackles with which we bound ourselves. Excuses are unrealized fears. Think about something you’ve recently made an excuse not to do, buy or even make a goal.
For instance, if there’s a pair of shoes you’d love to have but made the excuse not to buy as the budget doesn’t allow it – did you shut the idea down immediately and “restrict” yourself from the shoes? You will never have the shoes because you didn’t even give it another thought.

Here’s the deal: If you really want something, you’ll make a way to make it happen. Find what’s going to make you happy from the inside out and do it. Don’t make excuses and set up limitations on your happiness. Happy people are confident people!

Ditch the Filters

We filter our photos, conversations, actions… basically everything. Pull back on the filtering a little bit and take a chance on being vulnerable. Let someone know what you are truly thinking or how you are really feeling.

Don’t turn the selfie you just took into a grayscale enhancement because you’re afraid the world will see a wrinkle or the bags under your eyes.
Let people see the real you, underneath all the filters. The person they want to get to know and spend time with. The socially confident person is vulnerable. It sounds insanely opposite, but it’s the truth.

They are confident enough to know that they aren’t everyone’s type, and everyone isn’t going to instantly befriend them. They are strong enough to shine through the chaos and negativity and surround themselves with the true gems they did find that like them for who they are, blemishes and all.

Exposure is Therapy

A common practice for therapists treating people with phobias is called exposure therapy. They are urged to take baby steps and go a little further each time with their phobias until it feels okay. Until it feels safe.

Exposure is extremely hard for some of us because we waste too much time being concerned with what other’s think of us. The more you test the waters, the easier it gets, thus the more confident you become.

See! Those steps aren’t that hard, right? It takes some effort, follow through and determination, but mostly it requires you being confident in yourself, not in what you think is the perception of others. Building social confidence starts on the inside and works its way out.

Advantages And Disadvantages Of Being An Introvert

We live in a dog-eat-dog world and everybody gets labeled, whether they like it or not. In the past, introverts got a bad rap when compared to their extroverted counterpart. The introvert was often overlooked and undervalued next to the outgoing, fun-loving extrovert.

We live in a dog-eat-dog world and everybody gets labeled, whether they like it or not. In the past, introverts got a bad rap when compared to their extroverted counterpart. The introvert was often overlooked and undervalued next to the outgoing, fun-loving extrovert.

However, both personalities have their own set of advantages and disadvantages, and being an introvert has many good points!

Advantages of Being an Introvert

  1. Ability to focus.

These folks are typically able to hyper-focus on a particular subject or item for longer periods than would be deemed natural or even possible for an extravert. Research is a piece of cake for the introvert.

2. Independent.

The introvert needs very little supervision and works best independently.

3. Great organizers.

The introvert gives great attention to detail and leaves no stone unturned. They are great with organization and planning.

4. Cultivate more meaningful relationships.

For the introvert, it takes a while to open up. They take time to build relationships and really dig in deep. The amount of relationships isn’t important for them; it’s the depth and quality.

Quality over quantity is very much the standard for an introvert.

5. Quiet.

Obviously the introvert is quiet and deliberate with their actions. This trait also makes them great listeners and they are careful with their words, choosing carefully as to not offend or rock the boat.

Disadvantages of Being an Introvert

  1. Bad first impression.

Because they use fewer words and sometimes are socially awkward, their first impressions aren’t usually the best. They might come off socially inept or lacking in essential verbal skills. It’s not that their vocabulary is underdeveloped, because they are likely well-read; it’s more due to their lack of social encounters and inexperience with actual social cues.

2. Labeled as weird or awkward.

Speaking of being socially awkward, they get a reputation for being the weirdos of the group. Maybe they are a little different, but that’s hardly “weird”.

3. No Regard for Social Customs.

Because they don’t get out often and avoid crowds, people, an all things social, the customs of those well-acquainted with a social life are not only unknown, but unimportant to the introvert. Why bother with the crowd and their rituals if you’re never really in the crowd?

4. Often left out or overlooked.

In a social setting, the introvert frequently gets overlooked and forgotten when invitations go out. In a professional setting, their work is often overlooked because they aren’t the center of attention and usually hiding in a corner somewhere diligently working when others are running amok gloating about their latest discoveries and successes to the powers that be.

Regardless of whether you are an introvert or an extrovert, both have good qualities that can be built on and grown. This is where if you build your strengths and work on your weaknesses, you can build a better you!

You don’t have to become loud and ‘out there’ if you don’t want to. So if it makes you happier, be quiet and be proudly you!

Coping With Stress At Work

Stress resembles an unwelcome guest that strolls all through our lives every day. Fortunately, there are a few demonstrated practices that you can utilize to decrease, anticipate and even kill pressure and become progressively beneficial. Here are a few hints to enable you to more readily oversee worry in the work environment.

No big surprise individuals get worried at work. Research uncovers that a normal business expert has a long undertaking schedule and most representatives discover they get interfered with in excess of seven times each hour!

These are only few of the numerous reasons why a large number of laborers frequently falsehood wakeful around evening time tormented by distressing business related considerations. In any case, on the off chance that you feel that pressure is inescapable or unavoidable, you are just adding more worry to yourself.

Stress resembles an unwelcome guest that strolls all through our lives every day. Fortunately, there are a few demonstrated practices that you can utilize to decrease, anticipate and even kill pressure and become progressively beneficial. Here are a few hints to enable you to more readily oversee worry in the work environment.

Furnish yourself with a few pressure busting strategies.

Let’s be honest. Profound breathing strategies may do some amazing things while you’re stuck in a road turned parking lot however it may not be as powerful when you are going to have a business introduction. This is the reason you need your own tool kit of a few pressure busting procedures that you can utilize whenever and anyplace.

Figure out how to perform perception, dynamic muscle unwinding, contemplation, stomach breathing, substitute nostril breathing and Yoga. With some exploration and individual experimentation, you can have a proficient way of dealing with stress for each upsetting circumstance that you have to look en route.

Put in a safe spot time for center and recuperation.

Numerous individuals have this “continue pushing” mindset in the work environment. They feel that in the event that they endeavor to focus on their work for the whole move they will most likely accomplish more things.

Very likely, the genuine outcome will wane efficiency levels, expanding pressure and decreased quality time for their families. Rather, plan times of complete concentration to be pursued with a brief timeframe for recuperation. Along these lines, you can give full fixation to your undertakings and still revive your vitality every once in a while. This basic recuperation period is the way to decreasing develop and gathering of pressure.

Watch out for deliberate pressure.

Regardless of whether we let it out or not a portion of the pressure that we are encountering regularly is purposeful. There are the individuals who will frequently look for other individuals’ endorsement and are too cognizant about what others consider them. Thusly, they wind up inclination excessively worried about something over which they have little control, that being other individuals’ discernments.

Rather than concentrating on what other individuals would make of your work, attempt to counter this by concentrating on your work alone and nothing else and you’ll be amazed with the nature of your yield. This will almost certain diminish your mistake rates and increment your odds of dazzling other individuals. It will surely be better for your attitude and stress decrease.

Figure out how to chill off rapidly.

Furious or disappointment about a person or thing at work is one of the most widely recognized reasons for business related pressure. While we are irate it is far-fetched we carrying out our responsibility as well as can be expected, while simultaneously we are discharging a mixed drink of hormones into our circulation system that adds to our feelings of anxiety.

The amassing of the impacts of these hormones, when not disseminated by a genuine or physical ‘battle or flight’ reaction, is conceivably the greatest single contributing variable in numerous examples of incessant pressure.

Rather than responding or exaggerating so rapidly pause for a minute to play out a cooling breath strategy for unwinding. You can do this by taking in through your mouth much like tasting a beverage utilizing a straw and afterward breathe out regularly through your noses. When you figure out how to do this appropriately it can feel like you have recently hit the respite catch, as you feel the cooling sensation in your mouth emanate all over your body.

Continuously recollect that we at last have command over a large portion of the decisions we make and the things that we execute in our lives. Time and again we enable others to make us feel weak. On the off chance that your degrees of stress don’t appear to decrease even subsequent to rehearsing a few unwinding strategies, the time has come to make increasingly agreed move.

Counsel an expert before you harm your wellbeing and your associations with your friends and family.